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Do What You Don’t Know

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Like so many people who grew up with the Internet, there have been many incarnations of my online self. To some, I will forever be the queer blogger who star...


My article on Indonesia in Brink, last month

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I’ve started writing articles for Brink, a new media publication by the same people behind the Atlantic. My first piece is on Tech’s Role in Reaching Indones...

Kolkata Kalling

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12 years ago in Kolkata. At the time still much referred to as Calcutta. Now less so.

In Small Rooms with Betawi Women

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Not for the first time, I found myself in a tiny room on a hot day, the youngest among old women. Each with a different thing to say to me, also the only per...

When I Was Young

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I’m seated now by the side of an old vending machine in Jakarta airport, with power sockets so dirty and old I had to think twice about plugging my cables in...

Tan Boon Chye

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When I came home (to Singapore) a couple of days ago, I instructed the taxi driver to go to the Caltex station at East Coast. Most cabbies know this place, b...


Some Updates

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I’ve moved to Jakarta to take part in Ideabox with my startup, WoBe I’m writing more on Medium these days. The blog format is unsatisfactory to me at th...

Dumbledore’s Army

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I’m finally going to check off on one of the things I’ve told myself I want to do.

Singapore’s So-Called Moral Majority

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Call it what you will — if there are some among us in Singapore who fashion ourselves the conservative majority, the silent majority, the moral majority — th...

The Freedom to Love

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Ten years ago the Internet was a different place. Singapore was a different place. While it wasn’t exactly the sort of pitchfork-wielding, gay-vilifying envi...

All In

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I turn 29 in a couple of months. T-W-E-N-T-Y-N-I-NE. This is doubly a shock because in my head I feel forever young, partly as a function of always having be...

Gyanada 2014

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As you may know, I set up The Gyanada Foundation last year. We’ve spent the past year building the organisation and learning as much as we can.

What I Learned

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Two years ago I found out I have an autoimmune disease. I will always have it. It changed everything about my life from what I do for money to where I live. ...

An Open Letter

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On February 21, I wrote an open letter to the Health Minister, CC-ing the Prime Minister and the Law Minister. This was prompted by the Feminist Mentor’s own...

Culture Kitchen 2: Little Myanmar

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If you are anything like me, you’ve walked by Peninsula Plaza all the time and perhaps even entered it when you’ve needed to buy cameras and stuff. You’ve pr...

The Geography of Hope

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At 18 I certainly believed I knew everything. I did not know just how much it’d hurt this boy’s heart if I told him the inevitable: that I was in love with s...

Don’t Lugi Be Happy

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In peninsular Southeast Asia there is a word of Malay origin, bastardized by Chinese pronunciation that perhaps best describes the prevalent mindset of the m...

An Indian Decade

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As a wee child in Varanasi before I threw away my backpacker wardrobe.


Little India Urban Renewal Plan

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I believe an urban renewal and community reorganization of the Little India precinct can achieve the following: (a) the creation of public spaces to be share...


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I posted this on Facebook. Cross-posting it here for posterity.

A New Way Forward, Fists Forward?

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Update: About 20 minutes after posting this, news erupted that this had happened. I will be posting a second part to this piece shortly.

Living with Graves

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A year and a half ago, my friends sent me to a local emergency ward in Singapore when I moved in and out of delirium in the middle of dinner. I had been unwe...

Blazing the Trail

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I got a mention in the Singapore International Foundation’s magazine for some of the stuff I do on the side.

Life Is Short. Have A Kit Kat.

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As Ashley Madison, the world’s leading extramarital dating website, announced its plans to expand to Singapore, our minister for social and family developmen...

Why I’m Hosting Culture Kitchen

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This is a project which has been on my mind for some time now. We’ve been planning it for a while. A part of this is a response to a worrying trend of anti-f...

Love, Singapore

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I wrote a small piece for Elle Singapore (Sept 2013) about what it’s like to be lesbian in Singapore.

We, The Citizens

1 minute read is the first part of a side project of mine, which aims to combine technology and activism.

A Weekend Getaway

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Still scratching the surface of my favourite country in the world, this time by going to Coorg.

Gyanada Foundation Soft Launch

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Announcing the launch of a new non-profit that aims to improve girls’ education in four states of India.

From the Fringe

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450 likes on Facebook. This may offend your political sentiments, but I’ll stand by this.


Five of Each

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A list of places and things


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63 random things from the past 3 months (inspired by Michael Ruby’s “Fleeting Memories“)

A Public Service

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Recently, a friend from Bangalore messaged me on Facebook and asked me for some help. Her family friend, who was not very educated, had paid a lot of money t...


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National Day came and went. I haven’t written any of those essays I promised to. Sheepish. I will write them, I just need a little bit more time.

This Morning’s Downtown Line Tragedy

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Closure of donation drive: TWC2 will stop collecting donations for the victims of the #downtownlinetragedy tonight (Friday 27 July 2012, 2359hrs). For more i...

Departing Thoughts

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I must watch too many scifi movies. I’d rarely been convinced of the malleability of time, but these days I measure out everything in two-week units. Time...

This Site, Now On Steroids

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Those of you with elephant memories will remember what this site was 7 years ago. The web was a very different place. This blog was a different blog, I was a...

Wilderness TV

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I go off to be one with nature, and all that jazz.

Chocolate, Nudity, Helsinki

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I have seen some places in my short travelling life, but rarely a place that offers me chocolate and naked women within two hours of arriving. Helsinki turn...

Four Hours Light

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Helsinki, Tallinn, Stockholm, Skinnskatteberg, Malmö, Copenhagen. Once in a while, I enjoy diving deep into places I know nothing about. I have a good feelin...

I Hate Cabbage Soup

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White cabbage is death. If there is a Creator, it is one of his less glorious moments. The only thing worse than white cabbage is white cabbage soup. I am a ...


Is This Defunct?

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My father was having a conversation with one of the students at the university where he works. Apparently one of them was a frequent visitor to this site. He...


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Surprising thoughts on Singapore’s 46th birthday. I spent many years doubting my future as part of this nation, for good reason. I always wanted to leave. I ...

A Drinkable History of My Family

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In the tumultuous year that was 2009, I moved all my life’s possessions around the world several times, and then came home to find my grandfather was going t...

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A friend says, “you just need an excuse to get another blog”.


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A crash. A breakdown. 200 kilometres in the opposite direction. Andrew and I were left without our native son, and we screwed it up in as many ways as it was...

Private Islands for Everyone

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There comes a point in every traveller’s life when the experience of going to a foreign place no longer feels the same, nor as exciting as it used to be when...

The Great Southern Trunk Road

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If you looked on a map, the holy southern Indian city is merely 185 kilometres from Madras. If you took a bus, it would take just under five hours. If you tr...

We Have No Dungarees, Saar

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There are slower ways of seeing India. On a buffalo. On a “two wheeler”, a motorcycle, stacked to great heights with assorted luggage until you can’t see wha...

Southeast Asia for Lovers

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There I was, sipping my welcome drink in a posh Ubud resort, when I almost choked on it. I was accompanying friends as they sought the best wedding venue in...

Crazy, Delicious Love

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[]( chilli and strawberry cream cheese One of the proje...

Be Kind, Reboot

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[]( in Nikoi island It’s no secret I’ve lost interest in wr...



You Asians Have Two Stomachs

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Some friends from Turkey came to visit this past weekend. I had a great time hanging out with Melissa and Emirhan in Antalya when I stopped by en route to Is...


Bombay Burning

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I don’t have to tell you what happened in Mumbai. You already know it. I wasn’t there that day, and although I may at some point in the future, I have never ...

My City

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My city is often made out to be a boring business city, sterile and lifeless. Not entirely. No amount of protestation at how we’re really unique, though, is ...


Chasing the Monsoon

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Where I dig through my archives and repost the stuff I like. This is from 2007.

Sudder Street

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Reposting stuff I like from the archives. This is from 2007.


Portraits Unphotographable

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Whether it’s a long-haul transatlantic flight or a regional short hop, or even just a trip out on a local bus, the process of meeting and eventually talking ...

Amar Shonar Bangla

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Where I dig into my archives and repost stuff I like. This one’s from August 2006, when I’d spent some time in both sides of Bengal.

Why I Am Still A Feminist

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Reposting stuff I like from the archives. This is from 2006. It has also been republished in print in GASPP, A Gay Anthology of Singapore Poetry and Prose.

Other Mornings in Other Places

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What I have noticed about being away, and still can’t shake off, is how mornings in each foreign place are so strikingly different from what one is used to; ...

Art and Lies, And

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Reposting stuff I like from the archives. This one’s from 2006.



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Reposting stuff from the past. This one from 2005.


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Where I post stuff from the archives, the stuff I like. This is from 2005.


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Where I dig into my archives and repost stuff I like. This one’s from April 2005.


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Where I dig into my archives and repost stuff I like. This one’s from 2005.

The Eight Ages of a Woman

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Blast from the past: digging into my archives and republishing the stuff I like. This was originally from 2004, and reposted again in 2005. And again now.


Two Weeks

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Some weird poetry from 2003, when I was a wee child.