The Limits of Speech
September 18th, 2006 | Published in glbt, soundbites | 13 Comments
Z and I discovering new boundaries.
Z: “If you ever go out with A… even for a while, please tell me. But if you kiss some other girl, don’t tell me.”
Me: “Hmmm.”
Z: “However, if you go out with another girl exclusively, tell me also. If you fall for someone else, please do likewise. To summarize: don’t tell me, only if you make out with some girl for a night.”
Me: “If we make out more than once?”
Z: “If it’s a one night thing, somebody I know, somebody I will see in school, I don’t want to know. But anybody else, yes. If you think I need to know, then yes tell me. But if you think you’re being inconsiderate, then no.”
Me: “Ummm…. what if I have lovers? Do I tell you then?”
Z: “What are lovers?”
Me: “People you sleep with more than once, but aren’t considering going out with.”
Z: “Depending on the context. If you think I need to know then tell me, if not…”
Me: “God. Women. Next time I’m in anything with anyone, I have to draw up a list. Or a flowchart. Name does not start with G (yes/no) ââ¬â did I only kiss her once (once/twice/more than twice) ââ¬â somebody Z knows (yes/no) ââ¬â somebody Z sees in school/ goes to class with (yes/no) ââ¬â did I fall for her (yes/no/falling/maybe) ââ¬â DO I FEEL LIKE BEING CONSIDERATE TODAY (yes/no/bitchy today)…”
Why are ex-es always harder to keep than girlfriends?
September 18th, 2006 at 1:07 am (#)
xsecuseme, u the same hor. I’m just being flesibeh.
September 18th, 2006 at 1:08 am (#)
orh, liddat ah. flesibeh i like leh.
September 18th, 2006 at 1:10 am (#)
Ballsy, we want to podcast u!
September 18th, 2006 at 5:06 am (#)
Wow, that’s a lot of rules. Now, I think you can shake hands with Aung San Suu Kyi :)
September 18th, 2006 at 2:36 pm (#)
Ex-es are hard to keep….now imagine YOUR ex-es…that makes it twice as hard.
Z im not talking about you.
September 18th, 2006 at 2:52 pm (#)
smack my bitch up!!
September 18th, 2006 at 2:55 pm (#)
from a once aspiring writer to a journalist, i just wanted to say, i really enjoy your writing. with all your technical phone talk and gorgeus pictures i knew i had to say hello as well.
i have a friend who’s going to india again next year to shoot her first documentary on child trafficking.. by that i mean tibet, vietnam, thailand, cambodia, and laos as well, not to mention going home to singapore this november. her bag is only full of photography gear, mac chargers and a hip phone much like yourself. did i mention a journal and sketchbook?
it’s really nice to see someone contribute to this global community of ours in a non-tourist, visual and textual fashion. cheers my dear. cheers. its a pleasure to know people like you are around.
take care, lisa
September 18th, 2006 at 5:33 pm (#)
gee.. its not that difficult you know.. ex means axed from obligations.. the problem is we tend to stay in the comfortable past..
saw you at herstory.. kinda impossible to approach when you are never alone..
September 19th, 2006 at 1:10 am (#)
Complicated….
September 19th, 2006 at 2:21 am (#)
flowchart? huh? I’m lost reading this.
I guess I’m lucky, 1/2 of my ex-es are abroad. shrugz
September 21st, 2006 at 11:43 am (#)
You dont always have to kiss and tell mah?
September 22nd, 2006 at 12:18 am (#)
Pass me the flowchart and I’ll write a program to automate your decision-making process. I’ll even give you a 50% discount as a gesture of the boundless respect I have for you. Java runs on Macs, after all.
October 14th, 2006 at 2:13 pm (#)
The two of you ah.. Tsk.. tsk…