I Want My Money Back

Seems like each time I go to India, I don’t get my money’s worth. I mean, the Western media constantly sells us the idea that if you go to India you’ll find yourself, failing which, at least some semblance of peace after the requisite soul searching. Well, Hollywood, I want my money back. Each time I go to India, the only people who seem to get any soul searching done are my girls back home, without having to spend any time, money, or effort to come all the way to India, join an ashram, or talk to Standing Babas.

How does Hollywood expect us to find ourselves, when we’re so busy out here? I’m too busy trying to keep my life in the mad traffic, staying out of the trajectory of yet another fast-spinning neighbourhood/backlane cricket player, holding on to rickshaws that go against traffic and almost defy gravity, and staying out of the shitting distance of the thousands of holy cows. I don’t have time to find myself, or anything luxurious like that. Or maybe I need to pay the Oshos and the Hare Krishnas to find it for me.

Anatomy of an Indian heartbreak: in my vast experience, goes something like this – a sucession of awkward 600 rupee calls, an awkward presence at the airport gate, an awkward drive from Changi to Clementi, and the awkward silence that is the first night home in my bed without the person I’d waited a month to see, not tonight or ever again.

Darjeeling, Agra, Goa, Meghalaya – each of these places contain pieces of my heart. I think I need to see a shrink, and the first thing I’ll say to her is: nobody ever leaves me because I’m always the heartbreaker – but it’s only when I go to India, karma gets back at me. And of course I just had to round up my trip and misery by ending in Bangkok, where you and I found each other in Sukhumvit.

750 rupees for the Taj Mahal, and 700 rupees for that phonecall, so I guess we’re even now, and 18 months is dead in just an hour but you know I had to save myself for “release”:http://popagandhi.com/6/release/. As though the weather agreed with me, it began to pour outside the moment I stopped crying, though that didn’t do any good because all I thought was of you and Palolem.

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  • s
    i'm sorry to hear that.. *hugs* please take care of yourself, girl.
  • iza
    hope things do fall into place. till then, take care of yourself.
  • Stay beautiful.
  • I'm sorry, too. I hope you feel better soon.
  • Adri, I'm terribly sorry. I'm beaming all my strongest and warmest good vibes your way, now and always. You are wonderful, Adri...
  • E
    I think about how it might have been
    We'd spend our days travelin'
    It's not that I don't understand you
    It's not that I don't want to be with you
    But you only wanted me
    The way you wanted me

    So, I will head out alone and hope for the best
    And we can hang our heads down as we skip the goodbyes
    You can tell the world what you want them to hear
    I've got nothing left to lose, my dear
    So, I'm up for the little white lies
    But you and I know the reason why
    I'm gone, and you're still there

    I'll buy a magazine searching for your face
    From coast to coast, or whatever I find my place
    I'll track you on the radio
    And I'll sign your list in a different name
    But as close as I come to you
    It's not the same

    So, I will head out alone and hope for the best
    We can pat ourselves on the back and say that we tried
    And if one of us makes it big
    We can spill our regrets
    And talk about how the love never dies
    But you and I know the reason why
    I'm gone, and you're still there

    So, steal the show
    And do your best to cover the tracks that I have left
    I wish you well and hope you find whatever you're looking for
    The way I might've changed my mind
    But you only showed me the door

    So, I will head out alone and hope for the best
    We can pat ourselves on the back and say that we tried
    And if one of us makes it big
    We can spill our regrets
    And talk about how the love never dies
    But you and I know the reason why

    Reason Why by Rachael Yamagata
  • G'ma
    Honey child - please call your Godma when you feel like it - big hugs and all manner of godmotherly indulgence. bisous!
  • mis_nomer
    i'm so sorry.. feel better soon..
  • Night
    This might not be the ending.
  • when u come home we will:

    1. not talk about it
    2. get sloshed while listening to tapes of hindi songs, radiohead and boyband music i know you like.
    3. rant and rave, as well as bite the throat of someone who suggests that the political economy of singapore is kind and progressive, and has equalised opportunities for all,in class. again.
    4. swear in malay.
    5. go for sexystickyfingerpudding at marmalade pantry, after we eat 2 irishmen's portion of fried pub grub.
    6. cry for a bit.

    and repeat all of the above, in random order, over and over again.
  • Ash
    *with you*.
  • c the fairy god lover
    adri. i left you an sms the moment i heard, i want to meet up. and i want to buy you lousy coffee.
    do you hear me!!??

    *chin up love, tis too shall pass*
  • Even Stevens
    You will find your calm amidst the storm within the eye [of the typhoon] wrecking through your life. :) Be well.
  • babe... hang on.
  • Thaddeus
    As India would have made known, life moves on.
  • Wen
    Be well
  • p.s
    of course you know that you will be fine-- and as a gay/indian/ \"shrink\" --i can only tell you that this catharsis (literal and figurative) will make the pain a little less harder to bear.
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